Fisting, hand-balling, fist-fucking, bracioproctic eroticism, puppeteering .... you've heard about it and wonder how to do it? now, this page is entirely devoted to satisfy your curiosity. get informed, be safe, sane and consensual, and enjoy!   ___
	Editor's note: JoAnn Loulan has requested that the following information be added to this article: Vegetable oil is not suitable for fisting, as it causes breakdown, in latex. Please use one of the market lubricants i.e. "Astro Glide", a water based sexual lubrication.
	how to Fist your Lover by JoAnn Loulan
	1 Get your minds ready. Everybody involved has to be willing and able just for starters. Fisting takes lots of juice, lots of opening, and lots of trust. So talk it over--okay?   2 Get out your wallet. Latex gloves for the fister will stop any viruses from passing from teeny tears in the fistee's vagina into invisible cuts and hangnails on that beautiful fist. You could skip the glove if you're not concerned about safe sex, but than hand slips in easier with a glove, anyway, so what the heck! You'll also need to stock up on some lube. This is essential! Store-bought is best, but vegetable oil will do if it's all you have. The main part of the lube part of the deal: Keep it warm and use a LOT of it. I do mean a LOT.   3 Take our brief Vagina 101 In the sexual response cycle, there is a time when a girl's vagina is at its most flexible. This stage is referred to by different sex theorists as: plateau (Masters and Johnson); excitement (Kaplan); or excitement/engorgement (Loulan). The basic physical deal is that the vagina lubricates and the walls move apart from each other. The first third of the vagina narrows, while the back balloons out. How do you get to this magic state? Next step.   4 Warm it up. Feel her all over her body, get her juices moving from wherever it is juices hang out when they aren't flowing out our vaginas (ever wonder where are they right now?).   5 Get her clitoris in on the act. The clit is not just that nub between the lips--it has "legs" that go on either side of your girl's genitalia on the inside that contribute to the vagina's internal movement. You can stimulate her clit in many ways--touch her anus, talk dirty to her, tell her what you're about to do.   6 Chill out. Throughout the rest of the steps, use a slooooww hand. Fisting is an art of gentle, forceful, determined movements that take cooperation. For the woman getting the hand job, make sure you're in charge. Don't think you need to make her happy. This is about making you happy (well okay, both of you, but it's your body that's taking in the hand after all!).   7 Prepare the entryway! Massage her perineum--that's the part at the bottom of her vagina that gets stretched to the max during childbirth. You have to get the physical thing happening without the help of hormones that move her vaginal walls apart during childbirth. Before moving on, her vagina should be wet, her perineum stretched, and you should have lube on your whole hand, wrist, and in her entryway--lots and lots.   8 Put all five fingers in (one by one). Fingers should be pressed together, and once they're all in, the thumb needs to be snug in your palm in an aerodynamic-looking "duck" shape. (After the fister gets her knuckles in, she'll need to slowly curl those fingers into the fist.) The hardest part is moving through the first part of her opening--it can hurt--so go slower than you think you need to. For the woman taking the hand, relax as much as you can and be ready for more relaxing and more directing. Your muscles naturally clamp down, which makes it a little weird to be trying to get in there. The problem is, putting a fist in sooner is difficult because the upper part of the vagina isn't opened up properly. For the fister: Push down on her perineum as you move in--when you meet resistance, keep your hand where it is if she can take it, and hold it there until her muscles relax.		9 Slip past the ring of tightness. Fister: Once you're past the tight place, you'll feel some sucking and find a slippery, gushy wonderful tube that is her vagina stretched around your fist and eventually your wrist. Wow, what a feeling! For the one with the magical fist inside you, what a rush, huh? The fister needs to make sure her fingernails are pointed toward the palm of her hand (no scratching of the walls of the vagina!). Be careful, because as elastic as tissue is, it can rupture. You'll both feel a suction. Don't worry, it's normal. You are pushing air into a tighter and tighter space. Keep putting more lube at the base of her vagina; it will work its way up as you keep adding it. Wow, you both made it! You can enjoy now. The fistee might want to touch her clit. The fister may want to move her fist very, very gently. You both might want to have an orgasm, right now!   10 Sliding back out--damn I hate that! Slide out with the same respect and slowness you slid in with. Fistee, make sure you're monitoring the situation. Fister: Keep moving your hand out slowly and when you get to the tight muscle, go even slower. Fistee: if you feel sucking, just breathe with your own rhythm. Sometimes this sucking of the vagina can be a little scary. It will be okay--it's just trapped air. Fister: keep the lube coming. The fister can also try to break the suction by placing a finger between her vagina and your wrist.       Don't Use a dirty fist. That includes any fist that has had any contact with the anus, or has fingernails that aren't properly shielded from the vagina. If you have long nails stuff cotton balls in the fingertips of latex gloves.   Fist the unavailable. Don't do fisting on someone who is passed out, asleep, or doesn't want it. You can tear muscles and tissue if you are too rough.   Fist while inebriated. Don't fist if either of you are drunk or on drugs. Make sure everyone is sober enough to give and take direction.   Special cases: Lucky Mama. Women whose vaginas are stretched from childbirth are a little looser down there, which makes fisting extra fun.   Less Estrogen=Go Slower. Women whose bodies contain less estrogen (from menopause, cancer, and other health conditions) may have thinner vaginal tissue. For this case, it's even more crucial that you both stay aware of what's happening so the fistee can slow her partner down if she starts to feel small pains that might be tiny tears in the tissue.       This article was originally published in On Our Backs, the San Francisco lesbian sex zine. Thanx for reprint permission !
	..... and there's more: If it Ain't a Fist... It Isn't Love, by Mizery A Hand In the Bush: The Fine Art of Vaginal Fisting, by Deborah Addington, Greenery Press Susie Sexpert's Lesbian Sex World, by Susie Bright